#5 Sometimes, it doesn’t matter which way we go.
So, I’m trekking down the path, carefully placing my foot so I don’t twist my ankle on the rocks, and taking care to keep an eye on the blue blazes, when I see a fork ahead. The path splits at the tree; which way to go?
Then I look a bit further and see that the path comes together again just beyond the tree. So, whether I go to the left or to the right, I’ll wind up back on the same path. Could that be yet another lesson for me?
What if it really didn’t matter whether we chose the red top or the blue, the asparagus or the broccoli, Tide or Era, the Yale preppy or the math geek, or to stay or to go?
Too often I’ve faced decisions with a life or death grip, needing to find the RIGHT decision. What tragedy will ensue if I make the WRONG decision? Whether it was laundry detergent, the blouse for the day, or whom to marry, once upon a time I invested in each decision with equal attention to detail.
Today I know that decisions come in all shapes, sizes, and levels of importance.
For a few decisions, I make lists: the positives vs. the negatives; the costs of one vs. the costs of the other. For some, I tune into my heart (or my gut): what is it I really want. (This works better with decisions of the heart as opposed to laundry detergent ones).
Sometimes I journal about the choice before me, switching between my right (dominant) hand and left. Writing with my non-dominant hand allows me to access a part of my brain that I wouldn’t otherwise listen to. Some call that one’s “inner child.” Whatever we call it, I get to hear about the choice before me from a different perspective.
How very freeing it has been to learn that not all decisions are of equal value. Often times, the choices we have before us don’t matter, not in the long run. We can use Tide, or we can use the rocks by the side of the river; we can go left, or we can go right. We’ll probably — as I did trekking down Camel’s Hump last June – wind up in the same place. It’s a matter of how far out we look.
How about you? What’s your history tackling decisions?
Did you miss the earlier posts in this series? If so, here are the links:
#13 When the going gets tough, each step is of equal importance. #12 Sometimes, perseverance is more important than having fun. #11 Sometimes, there is no single, absolutely right place to put your foot. #10 Sometimes, when we try to follow the signs, it ends in disaster. #9 Sometimes, the path we need to take doesn’t look like a path at all. #8 Sometimes, we just have to stop and listen. #7 Sometimes, we just have to stop and stare at the view. #6 Sometimes, it’s nice to have a reminder that we’re going in the right direction.